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  • The Burden of Becoming

    The Burden of Becoming

    Phil recently recorded a podcast episode called The Burden of Becoming, which we’ve included here for you. This post dives deeper into the questions we can ask God as we journey with him in spiritual formation. Remember, it’s not so important to focus on where we are going as it is to focus on who we are becoming.

    In biblical narratives, the process of character formation often pivots on a single, raw question directed at God. When characters are stripped of their comfort zones and forced to confront their identity and future, their questions shift from “What should I do?” to “Who am I becoming?”

    Here are four powerful biblical references where key figures asked profound questions that shaped their formation process.

    1. Moses: The Question of Inadequacy

    The Reference: Exodus 3:11

    “But Moses said to God, ‘Who am I that I should go to Pharaoh and bring the Israelites out of Egypt?’”

    • The Formation Context: Moses spent forty years as a prince in Egypt, followed by forty years as an anonymous shepherd in the wilderness. When God called him from the burning bush, his identity was completely fractured. He no longer knew where he belonged.
    • The “Becoming” Dynamic: Moses’ question, “Who am I?”, marks the exact moment he had to transition from a hiding shepherd to a nation-shaping leader. God’s response didn’t list Moses’ credentials; instead, God promised, “I will be with you.” Moses had to learn that who he was becoming was entirely tethered to who God was.

    2. David: The Question of Astonishment

    The Reference: 2 Samuel 7:18

    “Then King David went in and sat before the Lord and said, ‘Who am I, O Lord God, and what is my house, that you have brought me thus far?’”

    • The Formation Context: David had just been promised an eternal dynasty by God through the prophet Nathan. Sitting in the presence of God, David looked back at his trajectory from a forgotten youngest brother in a sheep pasture to the king of Israel.
    • The “Becoming” Dynamic: This is a question of identity wrestling with sudden elevation. David was asking, “Who am I becoming that you would trust me with this legacy?” It forced David to ground his identity in humility rather than royal pride, framing his life not as a self-made success story, but as an act of divine positioning.

    3. Gideon: The Question of Identity vs. Reality

    The Reference: Judges 6:15

    “And he said to him, ‘Please, Lord, how can I save Israel? Behold, my clan is the weakest in Manasseh, and I am the least in my father’s house.’”

    • The Formation Context: Israel was under brutal oppression by the Midianites, and Gideon was secretly threshing wheat in a winepress out of fear. The Angel of the Lord appeared and addressed him as a “mighty man of valor”—a title that completely contradicted Gideon’s current reality.
    • The “Becoming” Dynamic: Gideon’s question is a defensive reaction to a vision of himself that he couldn’t yet see. He was asking how someone defined by weakness could become a deliverer. His formation required a radical shift in self-perception: he had to stop identifying as a victim of his circumstances and start acting as the leader God called him to be.

    4. Job: The Question of Cosmic Insignificance

    The Reference: Job 7:17–18

    “What is man, that you make so much of him, and that you set your heart on him, visit him every morning and test him every moment?”

    • The Formation Context: Job had lost his wealth, his children, and his health. In the depths of his agonizing suffering, he challenged God, twisting the words of the traditional Hebrew psalms of praise into a raw cry of pain.
    • The “Becoming” Dynamic: While David asked a similar question in wonder, Job asked it in frustration. Suffering forced Job to re-examine what it truly means to be a human being in relation to God. Through this brutal formation process, Job transformed from someone who merely followed religious rules into someone who possessed a deep, unshakeable, firsthand relational intimacy with the Creator.

    The Common Thread: In every instance, these questions arose when a character’s old identity was no longer sufficient for the future God was pulling them into. The question “Who am I?” served as the doorway to their transformation.

  • When Hope Feels Out of Reach

    When Hope Feels Out of Reach

    Finding God in Your Darkest Moments


    When God Feels Silent, He’s Actually Closest

    Have you ever felt like God packed His bags and left? Like your prayers are bouncing off the ceiling? You’re not alone—and you’re not abandoned.

    When life falls apart, our first instinct is to interpret silence as absence. But Psalm 34:18 flips that script entirely: “The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.” Notice it doesn’t say He might come close or He’s thinking about showing up. It says He is close—present tense, guaranteed proximity.

    Why Hardship Feels Like Abandonment

    Our emotions aren’t always reliable theologians. When we’re drowning in grief, loss, or disappointment, it’s natural to feel isolated. But here’s the truth bomb: God’s nearness isn’t dependent on your ability to feel it.

    Think about it like standing in a dark room. The walls didn’t disappear just because you can’t see them. Similarly, God’s presence doesn’t evaporate during your darkest seasons—your spiritual eyes just need time to adjust.

    The Hindsight Gift

    Looking back on painful seasons, how many times have you seen God’s fingerprints all over moments that felt God-forsaken at the time? That’s the ministry of hindsight—it reveals that helplessness was actually an invitation to deeper intimacy.

    When you’re too weak to carry yourself, that’s when you discover God’s been carrying you all along.

    Practical Steps Forward

    1. Stop interpreting emotions as evidence. Feelings are real, but they’re not always reliable narrators of truth.
    2. Anchor to Scripture, not circumstances. Psalm 34:18 is a promise, regardless of what your day looks like.
    3. Talk to God honestly. He can handle your anger, confusion, and questions.
    4. Find community. Isolation intensifies hopelessness; connection brings perspective.

    Listen to Episode 1 of Helpless Not Hopeless to dive deeper into recognising God’s nearness when hope feels impossible to grasp.

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  • CWP.10. How to live life without going pop

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    Coffee with Phil

    CWP.10. How to live life without going pop.

    In this episode of Coffee With Phil you’re going to hear Phil be pretty honest about the season of life he’s in and what the risks are for him. And why this is important is the risks he faces are the same for you. How does Phil try and live life to make sure the pressures don’t make him go “pop”?

    Phil shares five key disciplines that he has been implementing lately to take extra-special care of himself. This may not be popular with people as it involves asking some tough questions and making some tough choices. But the point is to make the right choices so as to keep oneself safe.

    In this episode you’re going to be invited to review your priorities and challenge your thinking. If you thought the answer to your pressures was going to be found in someone else, Phil wants you to know it all starts with you!

    The best way you can live life without going pop to to be more self-aware and take better self-care.

    Phil Strong

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  • CWP.8. Storms Are Preparation

    Coffee with Phil

    CWP.8. Storms Are Preparation.

    Life truly throws us challenges, doesn’t it? Life can sometimes feel like a storm. In this podcast I want you to hear me say, “storms in life are preparation for something!” You are being prepared for your future, and the future is good.

    At the beginning of this podcast you’ll hear me explain how this audio impacted me 12 months after it was recorded. And here we are, another 12 months on, and it’s impacting me again. I hope this message impacts you in a positive way.

    This episode of Coffee With Phil includes a recording of a message I spoke at Zion and you can hear me referring to an image I’m drawing while I’m speaking. If you know me well, you’ll know that I often teach and/or speak using images. While you can’t see that image, you will clearly get the message as I share it. there are may bible references in this message. Don’t let that put you off – often the bible speaks to us in ways we need to hear. So, stay listening and grab the gold that’s in this episode.

    If something in this message strikes you and you want to chat, reach out to me via this website of my Facebook page, Phil Strong – Author.


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  • CWP.7. Live Life Wide Open – an interview with Mary Wanhill

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    Coffee with Phil – an interview with Mary Wanhill

    CWP.7. Live Life Wide Open.

    When you race a motocross bike you want to have the throttle “wide open” as much as you can.  That’s because you want to be the fastest in order to win.  But what about when your life shifts?  What does it mean to live life “wide open”?

    Mary Wanhill and her husband Joel lead an organisation called Youth Encounter, where they invest in young people to help them discover who they are and how to succeed.  As Mary says, “When you try and uncover the gold in someone they don’t mind when you remove some of the dirt.”

    Before Mary worked with youth she had a career racing dirt bikes and then as an international athlete completing massive jumps and tricks in the air while on her bike.  No wonder they called her “Scary Mary”!

    Enjoy this interview with Mary – her stories are bound to encourage you.

    Check out photos and stories here on the Youth Encounter NZ Facebook page:  https://www.facebook.com/YouthEncounterNZ


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  • CWP.6. How To Succeed After Failure – interview with Ryan Hamilton

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    Coffee with Phil – an interview with Ryan Hamilton

    CWP.6. How To Succeed After Failure.

    What do you do if you fail when you attempt the very thing you know you were called to do?  Ryan was certain he should be involved in local government and so he made plans to be elected.  But he failed.  Not once, not twice, and not three times.  Listen to this interview and discover how many times Ryan failed.  More importantly for you, discover the keys you can apply to your own life and learn how to succeed after failure.

    Welcome to Episode 6 of Coffee With Phil.  In this interview with Ryan Hamilton, Phil digs for some priceless principles that will help anybody who feels like they have failed in an important mission.

    One of the keys Ryan shares is the power of the “life balance wheel”.

    How balanced is your life?

    A quick google search for “life balance wheel” will find you many posts, videos and tests where you can assess how balanced your life is. Why would you do this? Knowing where you are out of balance will help you to refocus and redirect your energy so that your life doesn’t derail you!


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  • CWP.5. Play the Long Game

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    Coffee with Phil

    CWP.5. Play the Long Game.

    In this episode of Coffee With Phil there’s a challenge that you may not like. Do you view your choices through the lens of a long-term or short-term gain?

    In this candid discussion, Phil shares five examples where he and Kathy have made significant decisions that were not motivated by the short-term, here and now. You’ll hear how they had to decide whether they would be affected by the views of others, what cost they were prepared to bear and, most importantly, what matters most.

    If you are motivated to reshape the way you see your world and how you make significant decisions that build into your family and your future, you may be interested to read Phil’s book, Building a Strong Family. It’s available as a paperback or ebook.

    If you’re the kind of person that only worries about feeling good today then you definitely won’t want to be challenged by Phil in this podcast. But, if you’re game, grab yourself some time and enjoy coffee with Phil.


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  • CWP.4. The Power of Team

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    Coffee with Phil

    CWP.4. The Power of Team.

    In this episode of Coffee With Phil you will hear some of the key lessons Phil has learned through his book writing projects and how you can also achieve more with the power of team. 

    Back in 2014 when Phil launched Kids and Money he had people contributing from all over the world; his co-author Amanda was in Canada, he had proof-readers in NZ and Australia and he never met his editor who was living in Christchurch.  As Phil shares what he has learned you can see how you can harness the power of team when you engage people in what they are good at.. and it’s often best if you don’t do it all yourself!


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  • CWP.3. Living Life With Depression – interview with Lana Carter

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    Coffee with Phil – an interview with Lana Carter

    CWP.3. Living Life With Depression.

    Welcome to Episode 3 of Coffee with Phil. In this episode Phil sits with long-time friend, Lana Carter, and asks her what it is like to live with depression. This conversation is raw, emotional and incredibly honest. This will help you to understand what may be going on inside of you, or perhaps help you to begin to understand what is happening inside someone close to you.

    The best advice I can give you is ‘be kind to yourself.’

    Lana Carter

    Being aware of and taking care of mental health is a huge topic, and by no means is this interview comprehensive help. This is one person sharing her journey – being completely vulnerable – with hope that you will gain insight from her story.

    Depression: How to find help if you need it.

    If you or someone close to you needs help, we suggest you check out the following resources online:

    https://depression.org.nz/

    Is it depression or anxiety?

    Help someone close to you

    FREE 24/7 HELPLINE: (New Zealand)

    Call: 0800 111 757 or send a text to 4202


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  • CWP.2. Reading between the pages

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    Coffee with Phil

    CWP.2. Reading between the pages.

    Welcome to Episode 2 of Coffee with Phil. In this episode, (recorded under 2020 lockdown), Phil does what he does often – talks with himself! Phil pulls back the curtains and reveals some of what goes on behind the stories he writes.  If you’ve read his book, Building a Strong Family, you’ll know there has to be more than what is on the pages.  And that’s a bit of what Phil shares here… and there’s more! Phil challenges you to look deeper, to consider what is happening behind the story you see, to read between the pages, and to be blessed by what you find.

    Don’t miss the true gold in your journey, it’s often hidden under the mess.

    Phil Strong

    Even when you find yourself in a situation where it seems like worlds are colliding, like nothing makes sense, or you don’t have the answer to your “why” questions… when you read between the pages you find the best answer.

    Listen to this episode and discover that you are in charge of writing your own story!.

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