Phil Strong

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  • Get Free Like Me

    Get Free Like Me

    If you’ve ever felt like you’re doing everything “right” as a Christian but still feeling exhausted, anxious, and not good enough… you’re not alone.

    You show up at church. You serve faithfully. You read your Bible and pray. You’re trying so hard to measure up, to earn God’s approval, to be spiritual enough.

    But here’s what no one tells you: You might be building your entire spiritual life on beliefs that aren’t actually in the Bible.

    I call them “little t” truths—beliefs that feel right, sound spiritual, and might even be taught in church… but aren’t found in Scripture. And they’re keeping you in bondage.

    How do I know? Because I’ve spent decades counseling believers who are carrying crushing burdens God never intended them to bear.

    Like the woman who believed: “God only loves me when I’m useful”
    Or the man convinced: “I must work harder to earn God’s favor”
    Or the teen who thinks: “If I’m struggling, I must not have real faith”

    None of those beliefs are biblical. But they’re powerful because they’ve been reinforced by experience, culture, or well-meaning Christians who themselves believed lies.

    That’s where Veronica comes in.

    Veronica is a legend—a woman who supposedly wiped Jesus’s face on the way to Calvary. It’s beautiful. It’s inspiring. It’s taught in Catholic tradition.

    And she’s not in the Bible.

    Not once. Not in any Gospel. She’s a “little t” truth—true in the sense that the legend exists, but not true according to Scripture.

    And here’s the question that will change your life: “Who the heck is Veronica?”

    It’s a tool. A checkpoint. A way to examine what you believe and ask: Is this actually in God’s Word, or is this tradition, culture, experience, or assumption?

    In this book, you’ll:

    • Learn the difference between “little t” and “capital T” Truth
    • Discover the Five R’s process for replacing lies with Scripture
    • Explore biblical stories (Naaman’s pride, Gehazi’s greed) that mirror your struggles
    • Identify false beliefs causing anxiety, shame, and spiritual exhaustion
    • Break generational patterns affecting your children
    • Find practical tools for living in freedom instead of performance

    This isn’t theory. It’s transformation.

    This isn’t just information. It’s invitation—to question what you’ve believed, test it against Scripture, and experience the freedom Jesus died to give you.

    Whether you’re:

    • A teen drowning in social pressure about identity and worth
    • A parent exhausted from trying to be “good enough”
    • A church leader helping others find freedom
    • A believer who’s done all the “right things” but still feels empty

    …this book is your roadmap.

    Because true faith isn’t built on legends, traditions, or what you’ve always heard.

    It’s anchored in the unchanging, unshakeable Truth of God’s Word.

    Stop climbing the wrong hill. Discover who Veronica really is—and what you should do about her.

    Get your copy of this powerful book today.

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  • From Broken to Beloved

    Healing Through Grace

    We all carry baggage. Like reusable shopping bags accumulating in your garage, emotional wounds and hurts seem to pile up without us really noticing. We don’t set out to collect this baggage—life just happens. People disappoint us. Circumstances crush dreams. Words leave lasting scars.

    But here’s what I’m sensing God saying to His people: it’s time to step into healing through His grace.

    When Reality Becomes Your Truth

    Here’s something crucial about healing: our reality often becomes our truth. What we believe based on our experiences, emotions, and circumstances—what I call “little t truth”—guides our lives. But it might not be God’s capital T Truth.

    If you were told as a child that you were worthless, that might feel absolutely real. Your emotions confirm it, your self-talk reinforces it. But it’s not God’s Truth. His Truth is that you are fearfully and wonderfully made, chosen, beloved, and precious in His sight.

    The wounds in our hearts become tools the enemy uses to manipulate us, creating strongholds that resist God’s truth and keep us trapped in limiting patterns.

    Mephibosheth: Grace That Transforms

    In my book Stay Strong, I explore the remarkable story of Mephibosheth—a man whose life was marked by trauma but transformed by grace. At five years old, he lost his father Jonathan and grandfather King Saul in battle. In the panic that followed, his nurse dropped him while fleeing, leaving him lame in both feet.

    For years, Mephibosheth lived in exile in Lo Debar—literally meaning “no pasture” or “barren place.” He lived in obscurity, poverty, and fear, believing himself forgotten and possibly hunted.

    Then King David asked a life-changing question: “Is there anyone still left of the house of Saul to whom I can show kindness?”

    Notice David wasn’t looking for someone who deserved kindness—he was looking for someone to whom he could show it. Grace isn’t based on merit but on the character of the one showing grace.

    The Moment Everything Changed

    When Mephibosheth came before David, he fell down calling himself “a dead dog”—seeing himself as worthless and expendable. But David’s response revealed the heart of grace:

    “Don’t be afraid, for I will surely show you kindness… I will restore to you all the land that belonged to your grandfather Saul, and you will always eat at my table.”

    In one moment, fear was replaced with security, poverty with abundance, exile with belonging, shame with honor. Not because of anything Mephibosheth had done, but because of grace.

    Your Invitation to Healing

    The great news is that healing and freedom is fully accomplished in Christ. You don’t have to work for it, earn it, or deserve it. For those in Christ, healing is available—you just need to reach out and embrace it.

    This involves:

    • Recognizing the lies you believe about yourself that contradict Scripture
    • Choosing to forgive those who hurt you and releasing bitterness
    • Receiving grace for yourself—you’re not the exception to God’s love
    • Walking in your new identity based on who God says you are, not your wounds

    Like Mephibosheth taking his place at David’s table, you have a seat at the King’s table. Your past doesn’t define you—His grace does.

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  • The Secret to True Community Connection

    “I just don’t feel connected. I just don’t feel plugged in.”

    If I had a dollar for every time someone said this to me, I’d be wealthy. It’s one of the most common struggles I encounter—this deep longing for authentic connection and belonging. People drift through life feeling isolated, even when surrounded by others. They attend church but feel like spectators. They live in neighborhoods but barely know their neighbors.

    But here’s a phrase that might change your perspective entirely: The way for you to feel connected is for you to choose to serve the very thing you want to be connected to.

    The Barnabas Model: Building Connection Through Contribution

    In my book Stay Strong, I explore the remarkable story of Barnabas—nicknamed “Son of Encouragement” by the early church. While others focused on what they could get from community, Barnabas consistently looked for ways to contribute.

    When the early church needed financial support, Barnabas sold his field and gave the proceeds. When Saul of Tarsus (later Paul) needed someone to believe in him after his conversion, Barnabas vouched for him when everyone else was afraid. When young John Mark needed a second chance after disappointing Paul, Barnabas invested in him—and that young man became the author of the Gospel of Mark.

    Barnabas understood a fundamental truth: connection follows contribution.

    Community in Layers: Where You Can Serve

    Think about community in expanding circles:

    Your Inner Circle: Family Start here. If you want to feel loved by your spouse, start loving your spouse. Want deeper connection with your kids? Choose to serve them consistently, especially when they seem to push you away. God chose you for this family—it’s your first and most fundamental community.

    Your Extended Family: Church Community Your faith community needs your contribution to thrive in its mission. This isn’t about massive commitments—look for ways to add value rather than just consume. Volunteer, encourage others, help with practical needs.

    Your Broader Context: Neighborhood and City God told the exiles in Babylon to “seek the peace and prosperity of the city” where they’d been placed (Jeremiah 29:7). You’re not just passing through your community—you’re planted there with purpose.

    The Focus Principle That Changes Everything

    Here’s a truth that will transform your relationships: What you focus on is what you move toward.

    If you constantly focus on what you’re not getting from community—how they don’t appreciate you, include you, or meet your needs—you’ll find yourself moving away, becoming more isolated and bitter.

    But when you focus on what you can contribute, how you can serve, where you can add value, you naturally move toward deeper connection and greater fulfillment.

    Your Next Step

    Don’t let this be just another inspiring idea you forget by next week. Ask God: “Where have You called me to contribute?

    What community do You want me to serve?”

    Start where you are. Choose one specific way you’ll begin contributing more intentionally—whether it’s being more present with family, volunteering at church, or simply getting to know your neighbors’ names.

    Remember: you’re not just trying to get connected—you’re called to help build the kind of community that reflects God’s heart to the world.

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  • From Burden to Breakthrough

    Finding Your Purpose Through Meaningful Action

    Are you just going through the motions of life? Wake up, work, pay bills, enjoy the weekend, repeat. It’s a cycle that leaves many feeling empty and disconnected from their true purpose. But what if you were created for something far greater than just existing?

    In Ephesians 2:10, Paul reminds us that “we are God’s handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.” You’re not an accident—you’re intentionally designed by the Creator for a specific purpose.

    The Nehemiah Model: From Burden to Breakthrough

    In my book Stay Strong, I explore the incredible story of Nehemiah—a man who transformed heartbreak into meaningful action. Serving comfortably in the Persian court, Nehemiah could have remained in his secure position. But when he heard about Jerusalem’s broken walls, something stirred within him that changed everything.

    Nehemiah’s journey reveals three crucial elements of purposeful living:

    1. Recognising Your Burden

    Nehemiah’s transformation began with heartbreak. The news of Jerusalem’s vulnerability didn’t just sadden him momentarily—it burdened him deeply. He wept, mourned, and prayed for days.

    What breaks your heart?

    What situation in your community, workplace, or family stirs something deep within you? Often, God plants these burdens as the first step toward our calling.

    2. Combining Prayer with Planning

    Nehemiah didn’t just hope things would improve. After praying, he developed a strategic plan. When opportunity arose, he was ready with specific requests—letters of passage, building materials, and permission to lead the project.

    This shows us that meaningful action requires both dependence on God and diligent preparation.

    We pray as if everything depends on God, and we plan as if everything depends on us.

    3. Persevering Through Opposition

    The moment Nehemiah began his mission, critics emerged. But his response reveals the heart of purposeful action: “I am carrying on a great project and cannot go down. Why should the work stop while I leave it?”

    When you’re walking in God-given purpose, opposition is inevitable. But when you know God has called you to the work, you can stay focused on what matters most.

    Your Call to Meaningful Action

    Whether you’re working in retail, raising a family, or wondering what’s next in retirement, ask yourself: “God, what meaningful work have You prepared for me in this season?”

    Start where you are. Excellence in small things often prepares us for larger opportunities. The way you serve today develops the character you’ll need for whatever God calls you to tomorrow.

    Remember, you’re God’s workmanship—created not for self-glorification, but to represent Him well in whatever role you occupy.

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  • The Caleb Spirit: 45 Years of Unwavering Faith

    Holding Onto God’s Promises in Uncertain Times

    Life has a way of testing our faith, doesn’t it? One day we’re walking confidently, and the next we’re facing giants that seem insurmountable. In those moments, we need something solid to anchor to—something that doesn’t shift when storms hit or fade when circumstances get dark.

    That something is the promises of God.

    The Caleb Spirit: 45 Years of Unwavering Faith

    In my new book Stay Strong, I share the incredible story of Caleb—a man who understood what it meant to live by God’s promises. At 40 years old, he was one of twelve spies sent to scout the Promised Land. While ten spies returned terrified by giants and fortified cities, Caleb boldly declared, “We can certainly do it.”

    But here’s where Caleb’s story becomes extraordinary. Due to Israel’s unbelief, he had to wait 45 years to see that promise fulfilled. Forty-five years! Yet at 85, this remarkable man stood before Joshua with fire still burning in his eyes, declaring, “Give me this hill country that the Lord promised me!”

    What kept Caleb strong through nearly five decades of waiting? He never let go of God’s word. He didn’t just passively hope—he actively agreed with heaven’s perspective on his situation.

    Your Promise Treasure Hunt

    Scripture is loaded with promises waiting for you to discover them. Whether you need encouragement about God’s provision, strength for relationships, or clarity about your calling, there are specific promises designed to anchor your soul.

    I challenge you to go on your own “Promise Treasure Hunt.” Search for verses that speak to your current struggles. Use your Bible app, ask God to reveal His heart through Scripture, and approach it with expectation. When you find those promises, write them down. Make them visible reminders of what God has declared over your life.

    Remember, promises aren’t just meant to comfort you in the waiting—they’re meant to strengthen you for the fight. Like Caleb, you can face giants and claim mountains because you know what God has said.

    When circumstances look impossible and doubt creeps in, that’s when you pull out those promises and declare with confidence: “This is what God has said, and I believe Him.”

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    You can purchase a PDF version of the book here: https://philstrong.com/shop

  • How to Find Strength in God When Life Feels Overwhelming

    Have you ever felt like David—coming home to find everything you held dear has been ripped away? Or like King Jehoshaphat, staring down impossible odds with nowhere to turn?

    “David strengthened himself in the Lord his God” (1 Samuel 30:6).

    That single verse holds the key to something profound—something that transformed two biblical heroes from defeat into victory, and something that can revolutionize how you face your own overwhelming circumstances.

    When Everything Falls Apart

    David’s story isn’t just about a moment of crisis. It’s about what happens when you lose everything—your family, your security, even the support of those closest to you. His own men, desperate in their grief, actually talked about killing him. If anyone had a right to give up, it was David.

    But he didn’t. Instead, he did something that reveals a secret most of us miss when we’re drowning in our circumstances.

    King Jehoshaphat faced a similar moment. Three massive armies were marching toward his small kingdom—a coalition so large it could crush Judah effortlessly. The Bible says he was afraid (thank goodness it records that!), but his response reveals the same profound principle that saved David.

    The Secret They Both Knew

    What did these two men understand that most of us struggle to grasp when life hits hard? How did they find strength when everything seemed lost?

    In Stay Strong, I unpack the two simple but powerful truths that carried both David and Jehoshaphat through their darkest valleys—the same truths that have sustained me through my own seasons of overwhelming circumstances.

    These aren’t complicated formulas or fancy programs. They’re timeless principles that work whether you’re facing relationship struggles, financial pressure, health challenges, or dreams that seem to keep slipping away.

    Your Turn to Discover

    The beautiful thing about David and Jehoshaphat’s stories is that they didn’t end in despair. David’s situation was completely restored—and then some. Jehoshaphat’s impossible battle became a testimony of God’s faithfulness that echoed through generations.

    What impossible situation are you facing today? What has you feeling alarmed, uncertain, or overwhelmed?

    The same God who was with David in his darkest hour, the same God who fought for Jehoshaphat against impossible odds, is with you in yours. And the way they accessed His strength is available to you too.

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    Ready to discover how biblical heroes found unshakeable strength in surrender? Order Stay Strong now and learn the timeless secrets of spiritual resilience that can transform your overwhelming circumstances into testimonies of God’s faithfulness.

    You can purchase a PDF version of the book here: https://philstrong.com/shop

  • Restored and Redeemed

    A NEW BOOK FOR YOU!

    Why God Isn’t Finished with You Yet

    If there’s one message that echoes across the entire Hold Fast journey, it’s this:

    God is not done with you.

    You might have limped through life. You might have failed publicly or quietly walked away from something you once burned for. But grace? Grace doesn’t write people off—it writes them back in.

    “He restores my soul.”
    —Psalm 23:3

    In Chapter 8, we look at the beauty and power of being restored and redeemed—not as a concept, but as a lived reality. We zoom in on the story of John Mark, a young leader who blew it early on… but got called back in.

    Paul once rejected him. Later, he begged for him.

    That’s redemption.

    In this final chapter post, you’ll discover:

    • What true restoration looks like (hint: it’s more than forgiveness)
    • Why your failure doesn’t cancel your future
    • How to partner with God in the process of being made new
    • Why your limp can become your ministry

    There’s a story I share in this chapter that’s painfully close to home—a moment I thought I’d disqualified myself. But what I thought was the end? God used it as a new beginning.

    Restoration isn’t soft. It’s powerful. It’s the moment God breathes back purpose into a weary, wounded soul.

    And if that’s you?

    You’ll want to download the “Redemption Reboot” worksheet—a tool to help you reflect, reset, and realign with the God who still wants to use your story.

    Friend, the limp is not the prize.
    The prize is the friendship of God you’ve forged through every chapter.

    He restores. He redeems.
    And He’s not finished yet.

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  • Staying the Course

    A NEW BOOK FOR YOU!

    How to Keep Going When You Feel Like Giving Up

    Some days, just turning up feels like a win.

    If you’ve ever found yourself spiritually exhausted—wondering if the prayers are working, if your obedience matters, or if anyone even notices—you’re not alone.

    Chapter 7 of Hold Fast gets real about one of the hardest, holiest disciplines: staying the course.

    Because while the world loves a big start, God honours a faithful finish.

    “Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.”
    —Galatians 6:9

    That’s the promise. But the waiting is where most people fall off the trail.

    This chapter explores:

    • What it really means to follow Jesus for the long haul
    • Why Elisha refused to stop short—even when invited to
    • The subtle danger of “slow fade” spirituality
    • How to build resilience through spiritual rhythms, not hype

    You’ll also hear a personal story from a moment I wanted to walk away—but didn’t. And how that moment didn’t bring resolution… but it did strengthen my roots.

    Faithfulness is rarely flashy. It’s quiet. Hidden. Sometimes unseen by others. But God sees.

    He sees your persistence.
    He sees your secret obedience.
    He sees your quiet yes when you feel unseen and unqualified.

    To help you build endurance, download this week’s tool: the “Stay the Course Inventory.” It helps you check in on your rhythms, your rest, and your reasons for staying faithful—even when the fire’s faded.

    Let this be your reminder:

    You don’t need perfect faith.
    You just need to keep showing up.

    Because the harvest is coming.
    And you’re closer than you think.

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    Because the story doesn’t end with pain—it ends with purpose.

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  • Wrestling with God

    A NEW BOOK FOR YOU!

    When Wrestling with God Is the Most Faithful Thing You Can Do

    Have you ever wrestled with God?

    Not walked away from Him, but wrestled with Him—face-to-the-floor, questions flying, soul aching kind of wrestle?

    Then you’re not weak. You’re in good biblical company.

    In Hold Fast Chapter 6, we explore the profound truth that wrestling with God isn’t rebellion—it’s relationship. It means you’re still in the ring. Still holding on. Still believing there’s something worth contending for.

    “So Jacob was left alone, and a man wrestled with him till daybreak.”
    —Genesis 32:24

    Jacob didn’t walk away unchanged. He walked away limping and blessed. Marked. Transformed.

    This chapter—and this blog—dives into what happens when we stop pretending and start bringing God our real selves: the grief, the anger, the confusion, the “I thought You said” prayers.

    Here’s what you’ll learn in this post:

    • Why wrestling doesn’t mean you’ve failed—it means you’re hungry for breakthrough
    • The difference between resisting God and refusing to let go of Him
    • How Jesus Himself wrestled in Gethsemane, proving it’s holy ground, not heresy
    • What it means to be marked by struggle and still move forward in faith

    I’ll also introduce you to a personal story where I found myself in a nighttime wrestle—no halo, no clarity, just raw honesty. And I came out of it with deeper intimacy than I ever expected.

    This week’s download? A simple but powerful journal tool called the “Wrestle Sheet”—designed to help you articulate the struggle, bring it before God, and listen for what He might be shaping in you through it.

    You don’t need to win the fight.
    You just need to stay in it.

    Because some of the deepest blessings come not from the absence of struggle—but from the presence of God in the middle of it.

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    Because once you’ve wrestled, you’ve still got to keep walking.

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  • Growing in God’s Grace

    A NEW BOOK FOR YOU!

    You’re Not Behind—You’re Growing in Grace

    Ever catch yourself thinking, “I should be further along by now”?

    You’ve walked with Jesus for years… and yet old struggles pop up, doubts creep in, and you wonder if you’ve failed some invisible spiritual exam.

    In Hold Fast Chapter 5, we take a deep breath and revisit the life-giving truth that spiritual growth isn’t a straight line—it’s a grace-fuelled journey.

    “But grow in the grace and knowledge of our Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ.”
    —2 Peter 3:18

    Grace doesn’t just save you—it sustains you. It’s not the welcome mat to Christianity; it’s the foundation you stand on every single day.

    In this chapter, we unpack:

    • Why grace is the environment for growth, not perfection
    • How John Mark’s story of failure turned into fruit
    • What to do when you’re tired of stumbling over the same things
    • How to shift from striving to receiving

    Spiritual maturity isn’t measured in theological vocabulary or streaks of good behaviour. It looks like quicker repentance, deeper gratitude, more compassion, and less ego.

    You’ll also get access to a practical reflection tool—the “Grace Growth Grid”—to help you track where God’s already at work in you, even when you can’t see it.

    This chapter reminded me of a moment in my own journey when I thought I’d disqualified myself. But God didn’t lecture—He leaned in. That’s what grace does.

    So let this blog be your permission slip to stop performing and start growing.

    You’re not behind.
    You’re not broken.
    You’re being transformed.

    Let grace do its work.

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    Because holding fast sometimes looks like not letting go—even when it hurts.

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