When he turned ten we wanted a special occasion to mark his coming of age as he entered “double figures”. We talked about all sorts of experiences he could enjoy, being careful not to push too hard in the direction of parachuting or bunjy jumping. His first choice was swimming with the dolphins. “Safe choice” I thought and we made the arrangements. But something happened and the dolphin had to cancel – that’s right, the dolphin died – so, no swimming anymore.

